Wednesday Wisdom: Don’t be afraid to try

Robbie had lost the election, but it hadn’t been a landslide. That meant that a significant percentage of the voting public in Horry County District No. 2 had at least thought some of his ideas were worth
pursuing. He had financed the campaign entirely with his own funds, so he didn’t have to compromise or make a ton of concessions based on that fact alone.

“Even so, I lost,” Robbie said. “What you’re saying makes me feel a little better, but in the end, I still didn’t get the job done.”

When reminded of this little fact, Sebastian smirked and said, “Technically, that’s true, but you can’t be afraid of failure or even resent it, Robbie. People spend their entire lives regretting missed opportunities.
And why didn’t they do those things? Because of one simple reason. They were afraid—especially of failure and coming up short. Not you, Robbie! You wanted to do something, and you did it. You ran for office, and here we are. And you know something? We can’t look back and criticize anything we did during that campaign. You don’t have to have any regrets or any doubts about what you could have done differently or where we erred and came up short. You were in it 110 percent, just as everyone who helped out was. Now we’re all better prepared for the next campaign and the one after that and the one after that.”

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Monday Motivation: Always give your personal best

“Allow me to quote one of your favorite political figures, Richard Nixon,” Sebastian continued. “God knows I’ve heard you say it enough times.”
Robbie tilted his head curiously as he looked at Sebastian. “All right,” he said with amusement. “Go ahead.”
“What was it he said at the farewell address from the White House?” Sebastian asked. “‘Always give your best. Never get discouraged. Never be petty,’” he said in his best Nixon voice, jiggling his jowls at the end for effect.
Robbie nodded and finished, “‘And always remember, others may hate you, but those who hate you don’t win unless you hate them. And then you destroy yourself.’”
Sebastian smiled. “Nixon was right about one thing there. Always give your best, Robbie. You have to give your best, even if you’re the underdog or on the losing side. If you don’t give your best, if you don’t do the best job you can, you’re gonna damage your own pride and self-confidence. Be proud of a job well done, whether you win or lose. If, at the end of the day, Carlos loses the campaign or this thing with the law firm doesn’t pan out, at least you can look back and say you gave it your personal best—that you put forth your best effort.”

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Wednesday Wisdom: You can’t just quit!

“Do you think the Dallas Cowboys just give up when they’re trailing into the fourth quarter?” Sebastian asked. “Do World Series teams just call it quits after trailing for the first three games?”
“No, but I’d venture to say they aren’t as excited to play as they were when the game started,” Robbie remarked.
“Hey, it’s not easy being down and out,” Sebastian agreed, “but hope springs eternal. You can’t just quit. You’ve gotta keep the spirit alive.”

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Monday Motivation: You have to make things happen!

“Hey, remember that girl at Coastal, the one you wanted to hook up with? The one who wouldn’t give you the time of day?”
Robbie smiled. “Boy, that narrows it down,” he teased.
Sebastian laughed and shook his head. “I think it was a statistics class,” he said. “Remember when I told you if you wanted things to happen with her, you had to make them happen? That you couldn’t just
wait around and hope for it? You had to take the initiative and go get it.”
“Yeah, I remember that,” Robbie agreed.
“And did you get the girl?” Sebastian asked curiously.
Robbie nodded. “Yeah.”
“It’s the same concept, Robbie,” Sebastian continued. “In business, things aren’t just always going to come to you. Sure, sometimes you step in dog shit, but that’s rare. You’ve got to take the bull by the horns and make something happen. Sometimes you have to find a way.”

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Thursday Thoughts: Sometimes you have to give a little to get a little

…sometimes we have to give a little to get a little. If you show a willingness to give a little ground, the other side may also be willing to do the same.

In his case, I laid out the situation real clear for him. I told him what it would cost him in accounting and legal fees, as well as lost time and opportunity, if he wanted to fight it. It would have been far worse than
what he owed.- Sebastian

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